Why it’s sometimes better to love from a distance

I’ve always been the type of person to never have half-ass relationships or friendships. I’d rather put in 110%, than the normal 100%. Sometimes that can be good, and sometimes it can be bad. I’m sure we’ve all experienced both the good and the bad.

Luckily, i’ve experienced more good than bad this year. It hasn’t been easy. My relationship and friendships did suffer for a little while….however, through this experience, I’ve learned that you can still love someone and put 110% into your relationship from afar — A.K.A “loving from a distance”.

I wish I had a solid definition for “loving from a distance”, but unfortunately I don’t. Loving from a distance is different for everyone because everyone’s perception of love is different. However, I’ll share what I believe loving from a distance means.

Loving from a distance:

1.       Not always being there, physically. Sometimes, people just need time to themselves to resolve an issue.

2.       Leaving the door open, just not wide open.

3.       Being able to keep the relationship/friendship alive without everyday communication.

4.       Maintain a loving relationship/friendship with strong boundaries.

5.       Keeping your heart open, but not on your sleeve.

Applying these to my relationships and friendships, has allowed me to keep life-long friends & even family. Obviously, we cannot disown our family, however, we do have the ability to set boundaries. And we should use this to our advantage.

So, the next time you’re in a sticky situation with your significant other, friends, or family — take a step back and let them know that you love them, but you’re going to give them time to themselves. Reassure them that this doesn’t mean you love them any less, but you love them enough to know when it’s time to give them space.

XO